We usually center more about planning for your wedding...but please don't forget plan for your marriage as well!
Wedding planning is so fun...it can be stressful, and...well, it’s own whole bag of emotions. And while your Adore Squad is here to help you with many things bridal - what we really love to see is our wonderful brides enter into happy & healthy marriages. Remember that your wedding lasts a day, and your marriage can last a lifetime (when you invest in it!)
So, during this current “Shelter in Place” mandate due to Covid-19, many of us have some extra time on our hands! What a perfect time to read some premarital advice & counseling materials together with your partner! You could even take it a step further and reach out to a psychologist, counselor or pastor and maybe have some video chats! A successful marriage sits on a strong foundation.
Pre-marital counseling has been on the rise among modern-day couples, and it’s one of those “trends” that we are so happy to see! What could be more impactful than building a strong foundation with your partner before the big day? If you're seeing a lot of each other while we "shelter in place", you may be learning a lot and testing your relationship as we speak. 😄 Working with your fiancé ahead of your wedding day is a good way to build a solid framework, and to communicate and work through expectations, each person's individual needs and healthy communication habits - this will keep any radical surprises popping up when the post-wedding dust settles.
And so, we have decided to share with you a short list of the top rated pre-marital couple books for ya’ll to check out! There are many great resources out there, but these are ones that some of us have personally used and benefited from! These books are written by a wide array of marriage and family therapists, psychologists, economists, love coaches and basically, people who have some wisdom about lasting love and strong marriages. So don’t let any budget or time constraints (um, planning a wedding is pretty time-consuming, and can hit your pocketbook!) stop you from taking some time to read advice from these relationships experts. It’s a great way to create a strong foundation before tying the knot.
The first book we suggest is: “5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman
You can find it at any bookstore (when Covid-19 is over), on Amazon or even Audible (link to this book on Audible provided below).
This book does an amazing job at categorizing and identifying how you best receive and feel loved. It gives you insight into how your partner gives and receives love as well. Don’t be surprised to find out that these are usually different, and can cause conflict and hurt feelings. Having a better understanding of yourself and your partner in this area will absolutely be a great tool to have in your love box to take into your marriage with you.
The second book we can recommend is: “7 Principles for Making Marriage Work”
This book has sold over 1 Million copies! It has helped set a great start for many couples.
John Gottman studied couples over a period of many years. This allowed him to observe the habits that can make—and break—a marriage. This book is pretty straightforward, and the principles taught in this book instruct partners with new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Who doesn’t want that!? Some topics covered in this book include: sex, money, religion, work, and family.
Here is the link to this book: https://www.gottman.com/product/the-seven-principles-for-making-marriage-work/
There are many great resources out there to help plan for your marriage. Take some time to check them out. Never stop investing in your relationship, it’s always worth it!
The Adore Squad